Ask a grown-up: why does love hurt?
The Guardian, by Richard Curtis
Lydia, you catch me in a rather serious mood. If you love someone, you don’t want them to experience sorrow or pain – indeed, often, you’d rather go through sorrow and pain yourself than have them experience it. When sad things happen to my family, my children and my friends, love almost causes more hurt than joy.
But I suspect you may be asking about the pain of falling in love, or being in love. Well, that’s a long story. When you fall in love, it often doesn’t work out, and that hurts a lot because the one thing you really want in the world, you can’t have. When they stop loving you, or you stop loving them, you lose the thing in your life that has made you most happy.
But I don’t want to be discouraging. My final answer to why does love hurt: because it’s the most wonderful thing in the world, the most joyful thing, the feeling of life being full of wonder, delight and hope. When you lose it or can’t get it, it hurts. But it’s worth it.